These are my notes on the theory of " Dominance" 

In order to understand what makes a personality dominant and another submissive, you have to understand what a personality is. A personality is a collection of survival functions put in place by the body derived from past experiences in order to live life easier, more efficiently, and safely. In other words, I believe personalities are one big survival technique. When we experience unfavorable events the personality changes accordingly in an attempt to avert the same experience in the future.  The event can vary from a bad break-up to a knife fight.

Now think of life as a pillar and a personality as the foundation. If the foundation is weak the pillar will lean and begin to fall. Much like a man with a self-destructive personality whose life seems to be falling apart. Personality is a means for survival so for a foundation to be weak is to have a personality that isn't self-sufficient enough to survive on its own. Because the foundation is weak, life/ the pillar is unstable and could give way at any moment.

This is where dominance comes into play. It is common sense to grab on to the closest thing around us to regain balance when we feel as though we're falling. Dominance follows the same concept. When the weak cannot stand on their own foundation they rely on another pillar to keep them up. They lean or tack onto the life of someone close to them whose life seems more stable than theirs whether it necessarily is or not. They seek these ppl in the hopes that being around them will teach them how to have stable foundations/ stronger personalities too. Those that can survive, teach, and those that can't, learn. And this is what defines dominance.  The foundation people choose to lean on to survive other than their own. If you cannot survive without something/someone to keep you standing, you're the submissive and if people depend on you to survive you're dominant. 

Dominance comes with the responsibility to constantly be strengthening your foundation/ personality. To constantly be as capable as possible because the more surrounding pillars lean on you the more they weigh you down. In order to avoid crumbling under the pressure, you must match the inner strength people believe exists in you.